The Prophets (ﷺ) Sunnah Regarding Anger

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The Prophet (ﷺ) on many occasions warned about the dangers of anger and provided numerous methods to help us control and prevent anger. He spoke about how true strength is not physical or in the ability to dominate another but true strength is about controlling our actions. When we are angry it is easy to react and commit harmful acts: insults, mocking, foul language, intimidation, hitting, smashing and cruelty, but to be able to control one self and act in the best possible way is what is a true example of strength.

Lessons

  • True strength is not physical dominance of others; true strength comes from control of ones rage
  • Fighting while in a state of rage is not fighting to exalt Allah
  • Fever (rage) is like fire from hell
  • Controlling ones anger when able to unleash it can lead to great rewards on the Day of Judgement
  • Don’t make judgements, rulings or decisions while angry
  • Anger for tribalism leads to a death of ignorance of divine guidance (Jahiliyyah)
  • Change position to remove anger
  • Shaytaan works hard to make us angry particularly those closest to us; family and friends

Dealing With Anger

  • If one becomes angry perform ablution (wudu) to quench the rage
  • Declare with sincere intention, “I seek refuge with Allah from Satan the accursed.”
  • Remain silent
  • Change position when angry
    • while standing, sit down
    • if anger continues lie down

Narrations: Sahih (Authentic)

Chapter: To be cautious from being angry

باب الْحَذَرِ مِنَ الْغَضَبِ

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”[1]

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ، إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ ‏

Narrated Abu Huraira: A man said to the Prophet (ﷺ) , “Advise me! “The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet (ﷺ) said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.”[2]

حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى بْنُ يُوسُفَ، أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ ـ هُوَ ابْنُ عَيَّاشٍ ـ عَنْ أَبِي حَصِينٍ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ أَنَّ رَجُلاً، قَالَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَوْصِنِي‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ لاَ تَغْضَبْ ‏”‏‏.‏ فَرَدَّدَ مِرَارًا، قَالَ ‏”‏ لاَ تَغْضَبْ ‏”

Chapter: Can a judge give a judgement in an angry mood?

باب هَلْ يَقْضِي الْحَاكِمُ أَوْ يُفْتِي وَهْوَ غَضْبَانُ

Narrated `Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakra: Abu Bakra wrote to his son who was in Sijistan: ‘Do not judge between two persons when you are angry, for I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, “A judge should not judge between two persons while he is in an angry mood.”[3]

حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ عُمَيْرٍ، سَمِعْتُ عَبْدَ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنَ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ، قَالَ كَتَبَ أَبُو بَكْرَةَ إِلَى ابْنِهِ وَكَانَ بِسِجِسْتَانَ بِأَنْ لاَ تَقْضِيَ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَأَنْتَ غَضْبَانُ، فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ “‏ لاَ يَقْضِيَنَّ حَكَمٌ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَهْوَ غَضْبَانُ ‏”

Chapter: It is disliked for a judge to pass a judgement when he is angry

باب كَرَاهَةِ قَضَاءِ الْقَاضِي وَهُوَ غَضْبَانُ

Abd al-Rabmin b. Abu Bakra reported: My father dictated (and I wrote for him) to Ubaidullah b. Abu Bakra while he was the judge of Sijistan: Do not judge between two persons when you are angry, for I have heard Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: None of you should judge between two persons when he is angry.[4]

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ ‏.‏ قَالَ كَتَبَ أَبِي – وَكَتَبْتُ لَهُ – إِلَى عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ وَهُوَ قَاضٍ بِسِجِسْتَانَ أَنْ لاَ، تَحْكُمَ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَأَنْتَ غَضْبَانُ فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ “‏ لاَ يَحْكُمْ أَحَدٌ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَهُوَ غَضْبَانُ ‏”

Chapter: One who fights so that the word of Allah will be supreme is fighting in the cause of Allah

باب مَنْ قَاتَلَ لِتَكُونَ كَلِمَةُ اللَّهِ هِيَ الْعُلْيَا فَهُوَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ

It has been narrated through a different chain of transmitters on the same authority, i. e. Abu Musa Ash’ari, that a man asked the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) about fighting in the way of Allah, the Exalted and Majestic, a man who fights out of rage or out of family pride. He raised his head towards him-and he did so because the man was standing and said: Who fights that the word of Allah be exalted; fights in the way of Allah.[5]

وَحَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، أَخْبَرَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنْ مَنْصُورٍ، عَنْ أَبِي وَائِلٍ، عَنْ أَبِي، مُوسَى الأَشْعَرِيِّ أَنَّ رَجُلاً، سَأَلَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَنِ الْقِتَالِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ يُقَاتِلُ غَضَبًا وَيُقَاتِلُ حَمِيَّةً قَالَ فَرَفَعَ رَأْسَهُ إِلَيْهِ – وَمَا رَفَعَ رَأْسَهُ إِلَيْهِ إِلاَّ أَنَّهُ كَانَ قَائِمًا – فَقَالَ ‏ “‏ مَنْ قَاتَلَ لِتَكُونَ كَلِمَةُ اللَّهِ هِيَ الْعُلْيَا فَهُوَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ‏”‏

Chapter: For Every Disease There Is A Remedy, And It Is Recommended To Treat Disease

باب لِكُلِّ دَاءٍ دَوَاءٌ وَاسْتِحْبَابُ التَّدَاوِي

Ibn Umar reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: The fever from the vehement raging of the (heat of Hell), so cool it with the help of water.[6]

حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، – وَهُوَ ابْنُ سَعِيدٍ – عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ، أَخْبَرَنِي نَافِعٌ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ الْحُمَّى مِنْ فَيْحِ جَهَنَّمَ فَابْرُدُوهَا بِالْمَاءِ ‏”‏ ‏

‘A’isha reported Allah’s messenger (ﷺ) as saying: Fever is from the vehement raging of the Hell-fire, so cool it with water.[7]

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، وَأَبُو كُرَيْبٍ قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ نُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ هِشَامٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ الْحُمَّى مِنْ فَيْحِ جَهَنَّمَ فَابْرُدُوهَا بِالْمَاءِ ‏”‏‏

Chapter: The Virtue Of One Who Controls Himself At Times Of Anger, And What Takes Away Anger

باب فَضْلِ مَنْ يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ وَبِأَىِّ شَىْءٍ يَذْهَبُ الْغَضَبُ

Abdullah b. Mas’ud reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: Whom do you count as” Raqub” amongst you? They (his Companions) said: One who has no children (the children are born unto him but they do not survive). Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: He is not a Raqub but Raqub is one who does not find his child as the forerunner (in Paradise). He then said: Whom do you count as a wrestler amongst you? We said: He who wrestles with persons. He said: No, it is not he but one who controls himself when in a fit of rage.[8]

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، وَعُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، – وَاللَّفْظُ لِقُتَيْبَةَ – قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ التَّيْمِيِّ، عَنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ سُوَيْدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏”‏ مَا تَعُدُّونَ الرَّقُوبَ فِيكُمْ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ قُلْنَا الَّذِي لاَ يُولَدُ لَهُ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ لَيْسَ ذَاكَ بِالرَّقُوبِ وَلَكِنَّهُ الرَّجُلُ الَّذِي لَمْ يُقَدِّمْ مِنْ وَلَدِهِ شَيْئًا ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ فَمَا تَعُدُّونَ الصُّرَعَةَ فِيكُمْ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ قُلْنَا الَّذِي لاَ يَصْرَعُهُ الرِّجَالُ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ لَيْسَ بِذَلِكَ وَلَكِنَّهُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ ‏”‏

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage.[9]

حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، وَعَبْدُ الأَعْلَى بْنُ حَمَّادٍ، قَالاَ كِلاَهُمَا قَرَأْتُ عَلَى مَالِكٍ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ ‏”

Abu Huraira reported: I heard Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: One is not strong because of one’s wrestling skillfully. They said: Allah’s Messenger, then who is strong? He said: He who controls his anger when he is in a fit of rage.[10]

حَدَّثَنَا حَاجِبُ بْنُ الْوَلِيدِ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، عَنِ الزُّبَيْدِيِّ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، أَخْبَرَنِي حُمَيْدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، أَنَّ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏”‏ لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالُوا فَالشَّدِيدُ أَيُّمَ هُوَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ ‏”‏ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

Sulaiman b. Surad reported that two persons abused each other in the presence of Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) and the eyes of one of them became red as embers and the veins of his neck were swollen. Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: I know of a wording, if he were to utter that, his fit of rage (would be no more and that wording is): I seek refuge with Allah from Satan the accursed. The person said: Do you find any madness in me? Ibn al-‘Ala’ said: Do you see it? And he made no mention of the person.[11]

حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْعَلاَءِ، قَالَ يَحْيَى أَخْبَرَنَا وَقَالَ ابْنُ الْعَلاَءِ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ عَدِيِّ بْنِ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ صُرَدٍ، قَالَ اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَجَعَلَ أَحَدُهُمَا تَحْمَرُّ عَيْنَاهُ وَتَنْتَفِخُ أَوْدَاجُهُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ إِنِّي لأَعْرِفُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الَّذِي يَجِدُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ وَهَلْ تَرَى بِي مِنْ جُنُونٍ قَالَ ابْنُ الْعَلاَءِ فَقَالَ وَهَلْ تَرَى ‏.‏ وَلَمْ يَذْكُرِ الرَّجُلَ

Sulaiman b. Surad reported that two persons abused each other in the presence of Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) and one of them fell into a rage and his face became red. Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) saw him and said: I know of a wording; if he were to utter that, he would get out (of the fit of anger) (and the wording is): I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed. Thereupon, a person went to him who had heard that from Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) and said to him: Do you know what Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said? He (the Holy Prophet) said: I know of a wording; if he were to say that, (the fit) would be no more (and the words are): I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed. And the person said to him: Do you find me mad?[12]

حَدَّثَنَا نَصْرُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْجَهْضَمِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، سَمِعْتُ الأَعْمَشَ، يَقُولُ سَمِعْتُ عَدِيَّ بْنَ ثَابِتٍ، يَقُولُ حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ صُرَدٍ، قَالَ اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَجَعَلَ أَحَدُهُمَا يَغْضَبُ وَيَحْمَرُّ وَجْهُهُ فَنَظَرَ إِلَيْهِ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ ذَا عَنْهُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ فَقَامَ إِلَى الرَّجُلِ رَجُلٌ مِمَّنْ سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ أَتَدْرِي مَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم آنِفًا قَالَ ‏”‏ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ ذَا عَنْهُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ لَهُ الرَّجُلُ أَمَجْنُونًا تَرَانِي

Chapter: What Has Been Related About ‘The Judge Is Not To Pass A Judgement While He Is Angry’

باب مَا جَاءَ لاَ يَقْضِي الْقَاضِي وَهُوَ غَضْبَانُ

‘Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakrah narrated: “My father wrote to ‘Ubaidullah bin Abi Bakrah who was a judge: “Do not pass a judgement between two people while you are angry, for indeed I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying: ‘The judge should not judge between two people while he is angry.'”[13]

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ، قَالَ كَتَبَ أَبِي إِلَى عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ وَهُوَ قَاضٍ أَنْ لاَ، تَحْكُمْ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَأَنْتَ غَضْبَانُ ‏.‏ فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ “‏ لاَ يَحْكُمُ الْحَاكِمُ بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ وَهُوَ غَضْبَانُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ ‏.‏ وَأَبُو بَكْرَةَ اسْمُهُ نُفَيْعٌ

Chapter: What Has Been Related About Too Much Anger

باب مَا جَاءَ فِي كَثْرَةِ الْغَضَبِ

Abu Hurairah narrated that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and said: “Teach me something that is not too much for me so that, perhaps, I may abide by it.” He (ﷺ) said: “Do not get angry.” He repeated that (the request) a number of times, each time he replied: ‘Do not get angry.”[14]

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ عَيَّاشٍ، عَنْ أَبِي حَصِينٍ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ عَلِّمْنِي شَيْئًا وَلاَ تُكْثِرْ عَلَىَّ لَعَلِّي أَعِيهِ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ لاَ تَغْضَبْ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ فَرَدَّدَ ذَلِكَ مِرَارًا كُلُّ ذَلِكَ يَقُولُ ‏”‏ لاَ تَغْضَبْ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ وَسُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ صُرَدٍ ‏.‏ وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ غَرِيبٌ مِنْ هَذَا الْوَجْهِ ‏.‏ وَأَبُو حَصِينٍ اسْمُهُ عُثْمَانُ بْنُ عَاصِمٍ الأَسَدِيُّ

Chapter: Seriousness of Fighting for a Cause that is Not Clear

باب التَّغْلِيظِ فِيمَنْ قَاتَلَ تَحْتَ رَايَةٍ عُمِّيَّةٍ

It was narrated that Jundab bin ‘Abdullah said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘Whoever fights for a cause that is not clear, advocating tribalism, getting angry for the sake of tribalism, then he has died a death of Jahiliyyah.'”[15]

أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عِمْرَانُ الْقَطَّانُ، عَنْ قَتَادَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي مِجْلَزٍ، عَنْ جُنْدُبِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ مَنْ قَاتَلَ تَحْتَ رَايَةٍ عُمِّيَّةٍ يُقَاتِلُ عَصَبِيَّةً وَيَغْضَبُ لِعَصَبِيَّةٍ فَقِتْلَتُهُ جَاهِلِيَّةٌ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عِمْرَانُ الْقَطَّانُ لَيْسَ بِالْقَوِيِّ

Chapter: Mentioning What the Judge Should Avoid

باب ذِكْرِ مَا يَنْبَغِي لِلْحَاكِمِ أَنْ يَجْتَنِبَهُ

It was narrated that ‘Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakrah said: “My father wrote to ‘Ubaidullah bin Abi Bakrah – who was the judge of Sijistan – saying: ‘Do not pass judgment between two people when you are angry, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: No one should pass judgment between two people when he is angry.'”[16]

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ، عَنْ أَزْهَرَ بْنِ سَعِيدٍ قَالَ‏:‏ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا أُمَامَةَ يَقُولُ‏:‏ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَأْتِي إِلَى فِرَاشِ أَحَدِكُمْ بَعْدَ مَا يَفْرِشُهُ أَهْلُهُ وَيُهَيِّئُونَهُ، فَيُلْقِي عَلَيْهِ الْعُودَ أَوِ الْحَجَرَ أَوِ الشَّيْءَ، لِيُغْضِبَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ، فَإِذَا وَجَدَ ذَلِكَ فَلاَ يَغْضَبْ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ، قَالَ‏:‏ لأَنَّهُ مِنْ عَمَلِ الشَّيْطَانِ‏.‏

Chapter: What Should Be Said at the Time of Anger

باب مَا يُقَالُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ

Narrated AbuDharr: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.[17]

حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ حَنْبَلٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا دَاوُدُ بْنُ أَبِي هِنْدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي حَرْبِ بْنِ الأَسْوَدِ، عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ، قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَنَا ‏ “‏ إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلاَّ فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ ‏”

Chapter: Tribalism

باب الْعَصَبِيَّةِ

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever fights under a banner of folly, supporting tribalism, or getting angry for the sake of tribalism, he dies in a state of ignorance.”[18]

حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ هِلاَلٍ الصَّوَّافُ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ، عَنْ غَيْلاَنَ بْنِ جَرِيرٍ، عَنْ زِيَادِ بْنِ رِيَاحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ “‏ مَنْ قَاتَلَ تَحْتَ رَايَةٍ عِمِّيَّةٍ يَدْعُو إِلَى عَصَبِيَّةٍ أَوْ يَغْضَبُ لِعَصَبِيَّةٍ فَقِتْلَتُهُ جَاهِلِيَّةٌ ‏”‏

Chapter: Excusing and Pardoning People

بَابُ الْعَفْوِ وَالصَّفْحِ عَنِ النَّاسِ

Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Teach and make things easy and not difficult. When one of you is angry, he should be silent.”[19]

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلامٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ فُضَيْلِ بْنِ غَزْوَانَ، عَنْ لَيْثٍ، عَنْ طَاوُسٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ‏:‏ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ عَلِّمُوا وَيَسِّرُوا وَلاَ تُعَسِّرُوا، وَإِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَسْكُتْ‏

Narrations: Hasan (Good)

Chapter: The Description of the Day of Judgement, Ar-Riqaq, and Al-Wara’

كتاب صفة القيامة والرقائق والورع عن رسول الله صلى الله

Sahl bin Mu’ad bin Anas narrated from his father, that the Prophet (s.a.w) said: “Whoever suppresses his rage, while he is able to exact it, Allah will call him before the heads of creation [on the Day of Judgement] so that he can chose whichever of the Hur he wishes.”[20]

حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّاسٌ الدُّورِيُّ، وَغَيْرُ، وَاحِدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ الْمُقْرِئُ، حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو مَرْحُومٍ عَبْدُ الرَّحِيمِ بْنُ مَيْمُونٍ، عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ الْجُهَنِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ يَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ يُنَفِّذَهُ دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْخَلاَئِقِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ فِي أَىِّ الْحُورِ شَاءَ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ ‏.‏

Chapter: What Has Been Related About Suppressing One’s Rage

باب فِي كَظْمِ الْغَيْظِ

Sahl bim Mu’adh bin Anas Al-Juhani narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever suppresses his rage while he is able to unleash it, Allah will call him before the heads (leaders) of creation on the Day of Judgement, so that he can inform Him of which of the Hur he would like.”[21]

حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّاسٌ الدُّورِيُّ، وَغَيْرُ، وَاحِدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ الْمُقْرِئُ، حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو مَرْحُومٍ عَبْدُ الرَّحِيمِ بْنُ مَيْمُونٍ، عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ الْجُهَنِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ يَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ يُنَفِّذَهُ دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْخَلاَئِقِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ فِي أَىِّ الْحُورِ شَاءَ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ ‏.

Sitting and lying down

Abu Umama said, “Shaytan comes to one of you in bed after his family has covered him and wished him good night. He throws sticks, stones or other things on him to make him angry with his family. When he feels that, he should not get angry with his family.’ He said, ‘It is part of the work of Shaytan.'”[22]

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ، عَنْ أَزْهَرَ بْنِ سَعِيدٍ قَالَ‏:‏ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا أُمَامَةَ يَقُولُ‏:‏ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَأْتِي إِلَى فِرَاشِ أَحَدِكُمْ بَعْدَ مَا يَفْرِشُهُ أَهْلُهُ وَيُهَيِّئُونَهُ، فَيُلْقِي عَلَيْهِ الْعُودَ أَوِ الْحَجَرَ أَوِ الشَّيْءَ، لِيُغْضِبَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ، فَإِذَا وَجَدَ ذَلِكَ فَلاَ يَغْضَبْ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ، قَالَ‏:‏ لأَنَّهُ مِنْ عَمَلِ الشَّيْطَانِ‏.‏

Narrations: Da’if (Weak)

Chapter: Medicine

كتاب الطب

It was narrated from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever wants to be cupped, let him seek out the seventeenth, nineteenth or twenty-first (of the month); and let none of you allow his blood to rage so that it kills him.”[23]

حَدَّثَنَا سُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ مَطَرٍ، عَنْ زَكَرِيَّا بْنِ مَيْسَرَةَ، عَنِ النَّهَّاسِ بْنِ قَهْمٍ، عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ ‏ “‏ مَنْ أَرَادَ الْحِجَامَةَ فَلْيَتَحَرَّ سَبْعَةَ عَشَرَ أَوْ تِسْعَةَ عَشَرَ أَوْ إِحْدَى وَعِشْرِينَ وَلاَ يَتَبَيَّغْ بِأَحَدِكُمُ الدَّمُ فَيَقْتُلَهُ ‏”‏ ‏.

Chapter: Expiation For Vows

باب كَفَّارَةِ النَّذْرِ

It was narrated that ‘Imran bin Husain said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘There is no vow at a moment of anger and its expiation is the expiation for an oath.'”[24]أَخْبَرَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ مَيْمُونٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مَعْمَرُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ بِشْرٍ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَبِي كَثِيرٍ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدٍ الْحَنْظَلِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ لاَ نَذْرَ فِي غَضَبٍ وَكَفَّارَتُهُ كَفَّارَةُ الْيَمِينِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الزُّبَيْرِ ضَعِيفٌ لاَ يَقُومُ بِمِثْلِهِ حُجَّةٌ ‏.‏ وَقَدِ اخْتُلِفَ عَلَيْهِ فِي هَذَا الْحَدِيثِ


It was narrated that ‘Imran said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “There is no vow at a moment of anger and its expiation is the expiation for an oath.”[25]

أَخْبَرَنِي إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا شَيْبَانُ، عَنْ يَحْيَى، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ لاَ نَذْرَ فِي غَضَبٍ وَكَفَّارَتُهُ كَفَّارَةُ الْيَمِينِ ‏”‏


It was narrated that ‘Imran said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “There is no vow at a moment of anger and its expiation is the expiation for an oath.” It was said: “Az-Zubair did not hear this Hadith from ‘Imran bin Husain.”[26]

أَخْبَرَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، أَنْبَأَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ، قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ لاَ نَذْرَ فِي غَضَبٍ وَكَفَّارَتُهُ كَفَّارَةُ الْيَمِينِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ وَقِيلَ إِنَّ الزُّبَيْرَ لَمْ يَسْمَعْ هَذَا الْحَدِيثَ مِنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ


It was narrated that Muhammad bin Az-Zubayr Hanzali said: My father told me that a man told him, that he asked ‘Imran bin Husain about a man who made a vow not to attend the prayers in the mosque of his people. ‘Imran said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: There is no vow at a moment of anger and its expiation is the expiation for an oath.[27]

أَخْبَرَنِي إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ الْحَنْظَلِيِّ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَبِي أَنَّ رَجُلاً، حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّهُ، سَأَلَ عِمْرَانَ بْنَ حُصَيْنٍ عَنْ رَجُلٍ، نَذَرَ نَذْرًا لاَ يَشْهَدُ الصَّلاَةَ فِي مَسْجِدِ قَوْمِهِ فَقَالَ عِمْرَانُ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ “‏ لاَ نَذْرَ فِي غَضَبٍ وَكَفَّارَتُهُ كَفَّارَةُ يَمِينٍ ‏”


It was narrated that ‘Imran bin Husain said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “There is no vow to commit an act of disobedience or at the time of anger, and its expiation is the expiation for an oath.”[28]

أَخْبَرَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو دَاوُدَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنِ الْحَسَنِ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ لاَ نَذْرَ فِي مَعْصِيَةٍ وَلاَ غَضَبٍ وَكَفَّارَتُهُ كَفَّارَةُ يَمِينٍ ‏”

Notes

  1. Jump up↑ Sahih al-Bukhari 6114, Book 78, Hadith 141: Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab) – كتاب الأدب
  2. Jump up↑ Sahih al-Bukhari 6116, Book 78, Hadith 143: Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab) – كتاب الأدب
  3. Jump up↑ Sahih al-Bukhari 7158, Book 93, Hadith 22: Judgments (Ahkaam) – كتاب الأحكام
  4. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 1717 a, Book 30, Hadith 21: The Book of Judicial Decisions – كتاب الأقضية
  5. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 1904 d, Book 33, Hadith 217: The Book on Government – كتاب الإمارة
  6. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2209 a, Book 39, Hadith 105
  7. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2210 a, Book 39, Hadith 109
  8. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2608 a, Book 45, Hadith 138: The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship – كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
  9. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2609 a, Book 45, Hadith 140: The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
  10. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2609 b, Book 45, Hadith 141: The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship – كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
  11. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2610 a, Book 45, Hadith 143: The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship – كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
  12. Jump up↑ Sahih Muslim 2610 b, Book 45, Hadith 144: The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship – كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
  13. Jump up↑ Sahih (Darussalam) Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 1334, Book 15, Hadith 14: The Chapters On Judgements From The Messenger of Allah – كتاب الأحكام عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
  14. Jump up↑ Sahih (Darussalam) Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 2020, Book 27, Hadith 126: Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives – كتاب البر والصلة عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
  15. Jump up↑ Sahih (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 4115, Book 37, Hadith 150: The Book of Fighting [The Prohibition of Bloodshed] – كتاب تحريم الدم
  16. Jump up↑ Sahih (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 5406, Book 49, Hadith 28: The Book of the Etiquette of Judges – كتاب آداب القضاة
  17. Jump up↑ Sahih (Al-Albani) Sunan Abi Dawud 4782, Book 43, Hadith 10: The Book of General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab) – كتاب الأدب
  18. Jump up↑ Sahih (Darussalam) Sunan Ibn Majah 3948, Book 36, Hadith 23: The Book of Tribulations – كتاب الفتن
  19. Jump up↑ Sahih (Al-Albani) Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 245, Book 12, Hadith 8: The Book of Dealing with people cheerfully – كتاب الِانْبِسَاطِ إِلَى النَّاسِ
  20. Jump up↑ Hasan (Darussalam) Jami’ at-Tirmidhi Vol. 4, Book 11, Hadith 2493
  21. Jump up↑ Hasan (Darussalam) Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 2021, Book 27, Hadith 127: Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives – كتاب البر والصلة عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
  22. Jump up↑ Hasan (Al-Albani) Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 2021, Book 48, Hadith 1191: Arabic reference: Book 1, Hadith 1191
  23. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan Ibn Majah Vol. 4, Book 31, Hadith 3486 – Arabic reference: Book 31, Hadith 3615
  24. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 3842, Book 35, Hadith 82: he Book of Oaths and Vows – كتاب الأيمان والنذور
  25. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 3843, Book 35, Hadith 83: The Book of Oaths and Vows – كتاب الأيمان والنذور
  26. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 3844, Book 35, Hadith 84: The Book of Oaths and Vows – كتاب الأيمان والنذور
  27. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 3846, Book 35, Hadith 86: The Book of Oaths and Vows – كتاب الأيمان والنذور
  28. Jump up↑ Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan an-Nasa’i 3847, Book 35, Hadith 87 – Arabic reference: Book 31, Hadith 3615: The Book of Oaths and Vows – كتاب الأيمان والنذور